Let Go of Negative Language
and Self-Talk
and Self-Talk
As I said in my previous post, how you think is at the very center of who you are, and where you are in your life. For that reason, I feel it’s important to begin with a series on shifting your mindset before launching into any further health specific topics. After all, information is useful, but altering your thinking to one of positive empowerment is essential for true life-long wellbeing, in my opinion. It’s the foundation for everything else, since being truly happy and healthy comes from the inside out. Wouldn’t you agree?
There’s a saying, ”If you think you can’t, you’re probably right”.
Are you conscious of the language you use, or what you tell yourself and others? Be very mindful of what you say, as the messages we repeat inside our heads are just as harmful as those we say out loud. Sometimes it can be extremely blatant, like someone who constantly thinks of themselves as a loser, and even states it as fact to others, or says they’re fat, stupid, or whatever negative thought they hold and express. It can also be more subtle, but no less damaging. For example, many people aren’t even aware how often they say, “I can’t do XY or Z”. It creates a very self-defeating approach to life, since you’ve pretty much shot yourself down before trying, or give up too easily when met with something that is perceived as too difficult.
If this resonates with you, I invite you to take part in the following exercise to create not only a deeper awareness of yourself, but also to open up a deeper sense of self-love. I think we could all do with more of that.
You ARE enough, and it’s time to embrace that and let go of old patterns of thinking and negative language. Are you ready?
EXERCISE
Turn off the TV or any other distractions and just focus on YOU for a little while. On a piece of paper, make two columns and write down in column 1 any negative thoughts you have about yourself, or things that may be holding you back from feeling and being more happy and fulfilled in your life. Include words and expressions you use on a regular basis like, “I can’t”. In column 2 create a positive affirmation to the negative one in column 1. Your responses don’t need to be as brief as the examples below. Expand on your thoughts to make it more meaningful for you.
Important Note: Speak as if you are already experiencing the positive new you.
For example:
Column 1 Column 2
I am terrible at managing money I am responsible about my spending and pay my bills on time.
I’m a loser I am beautiful inside and out and deserve the best in life
I can’t stick to an exercise routine I consistently fit exercise into my lifestyle each week
After completing the list, cut the negative column away, leaving only the positive to focus on. I actually burned my list. There was something about watching those negative beliefs go up in flames that was empowering for me.
Read your positive list each morning upon rising. I promise, you’ll start to feel subtle but significant shifts if you stick with this.
Stay tuned for Part 2 in the series next time.
To your success, health and happiness
Health Coach Kayt
